Leading up to today, there has been so much talk about love and about being sexy. Many women contacted me asking about lingerie and things they could do to add a little spice to their situation. The first thing that I tell women when trying to be sexy for their mate is that just like love, sexy begins with you.
Sexy is not about what you wear or what you don’t wear, it is all about you. Being sexy is a state of mind that promotes an attitude that draws others to you. Being sexy should be a matter of opinion for the on lookers but a matter of fact for you. Feeling sexy is a result of being comfortable and confident in your skin, not the other way around. The definition of a sex symbol shouldn’t be just the obvious, because when sexiness is paired with poise, elegance, purpose and substance, it becomes most powerful.
No one can make you feel sexy, you have to generate those feeling on your own. I had to learn that for myself. I can admit that for years, I questioned my sexiness. Although men and women found me attractive and I owned my beauty (inside and out), I didn’t think that I was sexy. Yes, I know it is hard to believe but I have battle with self esteem issues. Being short, fat and very top heavy; I didn’t feel like I was sexy at all. Hell, I remember telling myself, “you are pretty but fine and sexy…… You are not!”
However, the more I begin to love myself and embrace who I was, I begin to see what others saw all the time. Now I know that what I thought made me a girl with flaws makes me a fabulous woman. Yes I am still short; but so are cupcakes and they are small sweet treats, like myself. Yes I am fat; but that just means that there is more of me to love. Of course my boobs are big; but when have you ever encountered a big body vehicle with small headlight?