How I Broke A Few Rules And Looked Fabulous While Wearing Eloquii

 By now, I think that you know me well enough to know that I don’t follow rules. My belief is that rules are meant to be broken. Now before I get trolled, let me be clear that I am not talking illegal activity. I am talking about society and the idea that we must live according to the standards of some closed-minded random that we don’t know from Adam (that is a country saying, I don’t know Adam either).Maui of PHAT Girl Fresh

When I wake up in the morning, right after I recite my affirmations, I start thinking of ways to be better than I was the day before and how I can live outside of the box. What box? That tiny pitch black area where society allows fat girls to exist freely. You know the place for fat girls that is located inside of a slightly larger box for women. Yeah… That place!

If I started counting all of the rules that society have in place for women, especially fat women; I would need at least a thousand (or more) of you to lend me your hands. Although I could care less about any of society’s rules or beauty standards, I keep track just so I can challenge them. Today, I am challenging two fashion rules that society urges plus size women not to break: showing our arms and wearing stripes.Maui of PHAT Girl Fresh

Showing Your Arms

Society say:

Our arms are too big to be seen publicly and that every shirt should have sleeves. Why on earth would we want to flaunt such a flaw?  So what if it is 150 degrees outside, don’t you dare show those arms!

I believe:

There isn’t one thing wrong with showing your arms! Ladies, you have to stop absorbing all of society’s negative beliefs about you. You are fabulous no matter how big your arms are and you should love and celebrate every inch of you. Oh and remember, It’s your prerogative (in my Bobby Brown voice) to do what you want.Maui of PHAT Girl Fresh

Wearing Stripes

Society say:

If you are plus size, you should shy away from stripes because they distort your already flawed figure. They make you look even larger than you are and Lord know you don’t want that.

I believe:

Stripes can be slayed by any body type! There is no fashion bible that forbids you to wear stripes after you reach a certain size. My size ranges from a 24 to 28 and I look fabulous in stripes and you can too. Remember that slaying the scene is about style and not fashion, find a way to make the stripes yours.

 

In the event that you need a little inspiration, I have created a look just for the occasion.

My Style Journal 

Maui of PHAT Girl Fresh

Asymmetrical Bustier Top: Eloquii 

Button Front Maxi Skirt: Eloquii 

Black Strapped Wedge (similar): Sears 

I live in South Georgia and while most of you are gearing up to celebrate the end of summer, I know that I have plenty of hot days remaining. Please believe I will be killin’ em with the shoulders until it is time to bundle up for Winter.

So what do you think ladies? What fashion rules are you down to break? Chime in ladies!

 

Phat Girl Fresh

Lifestyle and plus size blogger that looks at life from a feminist prospective. I promote #queenshit and encourage women to be #PHATGirlFresh

36 Comments

  1. Destiny

    August 22, 2016

    I love every partnof everything you wrote. These are daily struggles i have that i have been slowly but surely embracing because im going to be me no matter what. & i hooe to one day inspire just as you do (:

    • Phat Girl Fresh

      August 22, 2016

      Thank you for reading and commenting! It is so important to learn to appreciate you on your terms and no one else’s. You are already an inspiration!

  2. Marissa

    August 22, 2016

    I love this! You are absolutely rocking the stripes and your confidence is radiating in your photos. Also the purple lipstick is on POINT. Keep up the great work on your blog!

    • Phat Girl Fresh

      August 22, 2016

      Thanks Marissa, I really appreciate that!

  3. luna gomes

    August 22, 2016

    Hey i realy like this post ! i surely do… WAUW

    • Phat Girl Fresh

      August 25, 2016

      THANKS!

  4. CocktailsnChatter

    August 22, 2016

    Absolutely fabulous! Bravo sista!

    • Phat Girl Fresh

      August 25, 2016

      THANK SO MUCH!

  5. Susan Leighton

    August 22, 2016

    You know what? You look TERRIFIC! I love the hair, the accessories and btw, stripes elongate the body so tell that to the size 0 fashion federales. Very refreshing point of view. This summer is killing me and I’m sorry but people are going to be seeing my arms. They’re just going to have to deal with it! Keep blogging and I’ll keep reading! 🙂

    • Phat Girl Fresh

      August 25, 2016

      Thank you so much Susan! that is right, show those arms!!

  6. Mary

    August 23, 2016

    Wow. Your confidence level is extreme. I wish I could have too.

    • Phat Girl Fresh

      August 25, 2016

      Thanks Mary! You can be just as confident, just believe in your potential to be great!

  7. Barb Knowles

    August 23, 2016

    VERTICAL stripes! Why have horizontal stripes been in style for so long? You’re fabulous and I want that skirt. Not only do I think vertical stripes are more attractive on me weight-wise, I’m very short. Vertical stripes draw the eye to the whole of me, not just to my breasts which dominate, as many larger women’s do. So happy that Discover brought me to your blog.

    • Phat Girl Fresh

      August 25, 2016

      Thanks for your support Barb! I have worn both vertical and horizontal and i am very short; 5’3 if im being honest. I am so happy that you found my blog too, I look forward to more interactions.

  8. Debra

    August 23, 2016

    Thanks for the encouragement – and you look fabulous! Debra

    • Phat Girl Fresh

      August 25, 2016

      Thanks for the support Debra!

  9. Melissa Tackett

    August 23, 2016

    I love your blog and you look great in those stripes. I wish I had your sense of style. Keep up the great work!

    • Phat Girl Fresh

      August 25, 2016

      Thank you so much Melissa! You have great style that compliments your personality, I am sure of it!

  10. Noor elhayat

    August 23, 2016

    I love your spirit..I love your rebellious spirit that makes you do whateve you alone think is right, not society.
    We need more of that.
    I think most of us have forgotten that were spiritual beings having a human experience, and we shouldn’t focus so much on body flaws/perfection a at the expense of the soul.
    I am a woman and I support you. I’m sure you have chosen a life style that suits who you really are at your core at this stage in life.
    I really like that purple lipstick you’re wearing and I would like to know the brand and color code plz😁
    Regards,

    • Phat Girl Fresh

      August 25, 2016

      Noor, thank you for you kind words and you are so correct; the soul is more essential than anything else. I think that some of us are too concerned about that which isn’t vital.

      The lippie that I am wearing is “Space Age” by Magnolia Makeup. You have to check them out, they are amazing!

  11. Sarah

    August 24, 2016

    I love your blog, you’re absolutely stunning and I adore your confidence. Keep it up <3

    • Phat Girl Fresh

      August 25, 2016

      Thank you so much Sarah that mines a lot!

  12. Carol Smith

    August 24, 2016

    You. Look. Awesome 🙂

    • Phat Girl Fresh

      August 25, 2016

      Thank You Carol!

  13. Nadine

    August 24, 2016

    Thank you for being who you are. You are plain beautiful and inspiring.

    • Phat Girl Fresh

      August 25, 2016

      Thanks Nadine, your support really means a lot.

  14. Dorothy Smith

    August 25, 2016

    I like this post. It’s really well constructed and short and sweet. Right to the point.

    • Phat Girl Fresh

      August 25, 2016

      Thanks Dorothy, Keep reading and giving input.

  15. ShaKera Ferguson

    August 25, 2016

    Yes Boo, yes. I love this post. You hit all of the areas that needed to be addressed for us. We are big but we can dress our butts off too.

    • Phat Girl Fresh

      August 25, 2016

      Thanks ShaKera! it is so important to like society know we are not here for their mess any more. If you want to see more of my style for some of your favorite brands let your voice be heard, they will listen.

  16. Mindy Boettcher

    August 25, 2016

    I love it, breaking the rules of society! Thank you!

    • Phat Girl Fresh

      August 25, 2016

      I am glad that you like it Mindy! Thanks for the support. If you want to see more of my style for some of your favorite brands let your voice be heard, they will listen.

  17. The Equalified Engineer

    August 26, 2016

    Gorgeous woman and outstanding shot, love your attitude!

    • Phat Girl Fresh

      September 7, 2016

      Thanks so much!

  18. Jess

    August 27, 2016

    I love everything you stand for! Thank you for promoting beauty and self worth at a time where women are shamed for the way they look. I have nominated you for the liebster award 🙂

    • Phat Girl Fresh

      September 7, 2016

      Thank you so much Jess!

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