Let’s be REAL; It is hard as hell to be a fat woman! We must endure men thinking we are only a fetish, we must deal with skinny girls thinking they are superior and we must deal with all the alternative facts that society continues to push. While all of this is enough to make a fat girl catch a case, what is even worse is when we are downplayed shamed and shaded by other fat girls.
Hearing a fat girl throw shade, shame or downplay another fat girl drives me crazy! How dare you use the same mouth to tear down a woman (in your image) that you us to uplift yourself. Honestly one of the most condescending things someone can do is attempt to spread hate in a space that you too exist in. WHERE THEY DO THAT AT… on The Real, that’s where!
Last week while unintentionally watching The Real, I found myself bothered beyond belief. Why because two plus size women (Frenchie Davis and Loni Love) used airtime on The Real to dim the brilliant light of a fellow plus size woman. I mean, all they had to do was celebrate the fact that Akira Armstrong had carved out a great space for herself and other plus size women but OOH no… that was too much like right (in my mama voice).
Instead of applauding Akira, a plus size woman who has danced in two Beyoncé videos and her Brand, Pretty Big Movement which provides a platform for other plus size women who love to dance they went left. They went so far left that Tamera attempted to pull them back in twice, but they were too sturdy! However, I want you to watch a tell me what you think, the video is below.
In addition to that, Frenchie had the nerve to reach out and tell me that I was lying and that she felt I was being “messy”. (Insert blank stare) Nessa girl, I was trying to be nice because I did like and respect you but let’s be clear… this ain’t what you want! The video speaks for itself and while it may not have been your intention, you evoked a feeling that I haven’t felt in many years… SHAME! The shame of witnessing a woman that I admire and who claims to advocate for women, shading another woman’s success on national television. The shame of knowing that a fellow influencer would use her celebrity to set our community back. So yeah Frenchie, I tweeted how I felt in that moment; isn’t that what people do on Twitter?
Now, I regards to Loni Love, that chick is a whole mess and I just can’t! How dare you say on national television that you are sturdy! Furniture is sturdy boo, you are fat like the rest of us… OWN IT! Well I guess you can’t own it because you never learned to love it and that makes me sad for you. However, because you don’t have the confidence and self-love that myself, Akira and so many other fat girls have, don’t downplay it! Honestly Loni, you out here getting your Trump on with these #alternativefacts because you are far from sturdy!
Last time I checked (2 seconds ago) sturdy meant strongly built and boo you are far from strongly built. A sturdy woman can’t be moved but you sweetheart haven’t even begun to find a place to settle. A sturdy woman owns her truth even if others find it unfavorable. Most of all, a sturdy woman is too busy empowering women to tear one down. So, yeah… sturdy you are not and solid you will never be until you own you shit and learn to love Loni!
Oh, and The Real, I know that it is your desire to have a diverse platform that empowers women but you are falling short. Why? Because Loni is doing a disservice to every community she is a member of. Black women and girls along with fat women and girl are taking a loss because Loni has no love and it shows!
NOW THAT IS THE REAL!