Maui Bigelow Of PHAT Girl FreshWhether you are single or in a relationship, you have witnessed or experienced the string of emotions associated with this time of the year. With Valentine’s Day right around the corner and love in the air, many times women become overwhelmed with love. For some it is finding love and for others it is being in love and then you have those battling with accepting love but, trust me… Love is trending!

As a woman, I know all too well just how bothersome it can be when the topics of love and relationships enters the conversation. Personally, I think it is unfortunate that society places so much emphasis on women being in relationships and finding love. Even now during what is clearly a great feminist uprising, women are considered inadequate without a relationship and children. Hell, if I had a penny for every time I heard, “when are you getting married” or “when are you having kids,” I would be rich. Forget our career goals, educational ambitions or our personal desires… per society, we must marry and have kids to be complete as women! Now don’t get me wrong, I am always here for women finding love, I am just saying that the absence of it in a romantic form doesn’t make a woman any less of a woman.

Loving yourself is a learned behavior and you are your best teacher! You must understand that you are valuable and that your worth is not determined by anyone other than you. Loving yourself is not an act of selfishness, it is the act of laying a strong foundation for every relationship that follows, to stand on. So, ladies; if you want to find love, accept love or learn what it means to be in love, you must first master loving the woman in the mirror!Maui Bigelow Of PHAT Girl Fresh

Like many women, I have had my share of shitty relationships; lies, cheating and even abuse. While I had no control over the actions of my former mates, I must own the fact that I stayed because I didn’t love myself enough to walk away or demand better. I wasted the one thing that I can’t get back… TIME! Yeah girl, I have wasted my precious time on some real clowns, because I thought they were deserving of me. However, once I knew better, I did better.

Today, I love myself more than I ever have before and because of that I am in an amazing relationship with an amazing man. He loves and respects the woman that I am because I love and respect the woman that I am. However, even during this great relationship, I still know that it is important to love on myself and take advantage of some much needed me time. With that in mind, I am looking forward to a little romance with bae and a little time loving on myself this Valentine’s Day!Maui Bigelow Of PHAT Girl Fresh

I know some of you are wondering; how do you love on yourself Maui? Well let me share with you a few of my favorite things to do when I want to show my star player (me) some love!

  1. Shopping! I love shopping, especially alone. Not only is it therapeutic but I deserve it and I don’t have to worry about being judged or my coins being counted.

  2. Girl time! There is nothing that I enjoy more than a little girl time. Not only do my girls keep me laughing but they remind me of just how fabulous I really am. Whether we are clubbing, out to eat or just sitting around having drinks; I am always here for some crew love.

  3. A pampering session is always great! I live for a good manicure and pedicure followed by a message.

  4. While a baecation is great, I must admit… I love my own little staycation! A few days away allows me to clear my head, process things and it makes for a great welcome home baby!

  5. Curling up with a good book is one of my favorite things to do. Yes, Netflix and chill is cool but sometimes I find great pleasure in the pages of a good book

So, tell me ladies, how do you show yourself some love? What plans do you have for yourself this Valentine’s Day? Chime in ladies, I want to hear from you!

Oh, and just in case you need a little more inspiration on how to love on yourself, head on over to Instagram and check the hashtags #VDAYWITHPSBU and #PSbloggerunion


MY STYLE JOURNAL  Maui Bigelow Of PHAT Girl Fresh   

Sequin and lace peplum top: Diva Kurves Collection

Neoprene pencil skirt: Eloquii

Faux leather and suede wedge: Torrid

Photos by P Dillon Photography



  1. February 8, 2017 / 3:39 pm

    Amazing tips and I love that top!!

  2. Chardline Chanel-Faiteau
    February 8, 2017 / 5:19 pm

    That top is everything! Also, thanks for the reflective tips!

  3. Rena
    February 8, 2017 / 5:46 pm

    Love, love, love, LOVE it!

  4. February 8, 2017 / 10:44 pm

    You look gorgeous! I love this red top so much on you.

  5. Darletta Smith
    February 12, 2017 / 1:40 pm

    I love the out fit….It is Life!!
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